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How to stand up for yourself?
Standing up for yourself is one of the most important skills to have.
Stashed in the back pocket, our ability to speak up and stand up for ourselves can be very empowering.
Standing up for ourselves is necessary because we must have agency in the world to survive. That as I navigate the complexities of life, through the rules and regulations, sometimes people will undercut one another in the most interesting of ways.
A friend of mine had a mother who somehow seem to capture what it was like to be passive aggressive in every interaction.
Whenever as a teenager he would ask his mom if she could do him a small favor like help do his laundry, she would do it, but only after giving him the “You make your mom do everything and don’t appreciate her.”
It’s such a simple statement that she would say endlessly, that for some odd reason, had rubbed my friend the wrong way.
My friend didn’t know how to articulate his feelings, but it was clear to me that his mom seemed to make a weak attempt to stand up for herself but…
